how to avoid Instagram comparison

32d097d94a81da3185955d4daa1e7eaeHey ladies,

For graduation, your parents bought you some beautiful flowers and a wrote you a sweet card. You were absolutely amazed with their kindness and felt an overflow of love from your family on this special day. Later that night, you get on instagram…maybe even to post about this generous act your parents did for you… when you start scrolling through your newsfeed and see everyone else’s photos from their graduation. One friend got a new car, one got a pet, and another friend got some designer shoes you have also been craving. Another friend got the new Michael Kors watch while another got a new Tory Burch bag. Suddenly, your flimsy flowers and little card don’t seem to be as thoughtful or special anymore. In a few days, your flowers will die and who cares about a card, right? But, your friends’ material items will last them months, if not years! Suddenly, instead of feeling grateful for what you have, you start comparing yourself and your life to your friends and now don’t feel as awesome as you did before. Subsequently, you are not thankful for what your parents gave you and might even resent them for not giving you what would give you 200+ likes on your instagram photo. 

Taken from simplyglamstyle this expert for sure brings up some thoughts. Aren’t we all a bit guilty of comparing ourselves with those lovely and very beautiful pictures from our instagram feed? We tell ourselves that nobody is perfect, but then again those pictures do look perfect. Why can’t my life be as perfect, as organized, as pretty and as successful as theirs. We wonder how come those children taken on that particular picture always look so tidy and put together, why cant mine be like that. Or we look at some home styles and wonder why cant my home be as glam and neat as this one. The travelling, the adventures, the children, the beauty, the parties, the dresses…etc. We constantly are put up to the challenge of not comparing our life, that looks way less exciting and glamorous than their flawless one. It is a never ending comparison story that even without wanting creeps into our brains.
A picture is worth a thousand words, right? yes but remember that it is still just a picture. What we see is just a fraction of what is going on in their lives. We do not know or see all their challenges, fears, aggravation or hardships which i am sure they have. We just assume it is all perfect.

Here are a few tips on how to stay balanced and grateful for what we have.


Try to really focus on all the many good things you have in life. Your family, love, home, job, children, friends the list goes on and on32eac0307b69a8c1f1a1e7a3a18ea042


Start capturing your own memories. And no you do not have to share it on social media to feel good about it. Take real pictures, display them, hang them up so you could be reminded of it



There is no better feeling than being loved and giving love. Is it your friends, your family or your children. Nobody could compare this to anything and it is so much more satisfying than all the material things we run after. Mentally remind yourselves that and enjoy the moments. No do not grab your phone to capture that, just feel it



Nature has a way of balancing us. It keeps our head clear and reminds us what the purpose of our life is. Seeing Nature taking its routinely course of life gives us a sense of peacefulness. Spent time being outdoors and pause to think. No phones allowed;)



You are the way you are and you should embrace that. You were put in this world not to be someone else, and not to live someone-elses life, but to just be you with everything around it. Enjoy it!


Next time you get those sneaky little thoughts of jealousy or comparing take those steps to get rid of them. I hope they help you as much as they helped me. I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

Until soon
Xx – Toby

*pictures from Pinterest


  1. June 3, 2015 / 2:46 am

    Thank you for such an encouraging article.๐Ÿ˜Š

    • June 3, 2015 / 4:11 pm

      your very welcome:)

  2. June 3, 2015 / 3:46 am

    <3 <3 love this!!! So glad we share the same thoughts on this. My goal for the rest of the week is to live in the moment and enjoy being myself!

  3. June 3, 2015 / 3:10 pm

    Aw I really love positive articles like this โค๏ธโค๏ธ

    • June 3, 2015 / 4:10 pm

      thank you! it is good to hear that

  4. June 3, 2015 / 5:27 pm

    This is a lovely post! So inspiring ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

    • June 3, 2015 / 5:37 pm

      thank you:)

  5. June 3, 2015 / 7:13 pm

    What a positive article! I love the part of spending time in nature with no phones ๐Ÿ™‚

    • June 3, 2015 / 8:06 pm

      thank you lily:) yes it is a great way to feel like yourself again

    • June 3, 2015 / 8:46 pm

      oh yay!! that is so exciting. thank you

  6. August 10, 2015 / 6:10 am

    Your article is motivating and refreshing, especially I love the parts “make your own memories” and “spend more time in nature” !
    And the design of your blog is lovely ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • August 10, 2015 / 1:38 pm

      thank you for the lovely comment!

  7. August 13, 2015 / 3:15 pm

    Hi there! I found you from Karen’s behind the blog post and I just want to say how inspiring this post is ๐Ÿ™‚ You seem to be so sweet and uplifting and I’m super excited to have discovered your blog!

    • August 13, 2015 / 3:17 pm

      Hi Kaily thanks for the lovely comment! great to have you here xx

  8. August 17, 2015 / 5:03 am

    Hey Toby! Loved this post- you are 100% on the money with everything you said. Staying focused on yourself, your blessings and things you can be thankful for is so important in life ๐Ÿ™‚

    • August 17, 2015 / 2:02 pm

      Thank you Chelsea for stopping by:) and thanks for the lovely comment xx

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